#1: Everybody is having sex
No they aren’t. That’s the simple answer. This is true in high school, college, and even adulthood. Some people are having sex and some people are not.
Everyone is different and has different preferences and experiences. This is a pretty good rule to follow in life in general: you will find people who don’t like chocolate or sunshine or even puppies (gasp!). Don’t feel bad if you dislike something that everyone seems to like and don’t hate on others who dislike stuff you think they should like.
But, I’m getting off track. This isn’t (typically) about what people like, it’s a matter of what they want or what they’re comfortable with or what is best for them. No matter the reason, it’s totally normal to be celibate or to be a virgin in college. (According to this study almost 20% of 21 year old women are still virgins.)
#2: Everyone is drinking… a lot
Again, the answer is no. Some people drink very often, some people drink occasionally, some people drink rarely, and some people do not drink at all. I’ve met people who don’t drink because of religious beliefs, health reasons, or personal preference.
Some people don’t like the way it tastes (I would venture to say that even many people who do drink do not like the way alcohol tastes), some don’t like the way it makes them feel, some don’t like the way it makes them act. For whatever reason, no one is going judge you if you say you don’t want to drink.
Here are a few tips if you want to avoid being pressured into drinking:
- You can play drinking games with water. I’ve done it before and it was no big deal.
- If you don’t want to tell people that you don’t drink (or are not currently drinking) you can say that you need to get up early for something important, of that you had too much last night (or last week) and need to take a break.
- Or you can fill a cup with soda or water (people often mix alcohol with soda anyway, so there should be some around).
- Or just grab a beer and pretend you’re drinking it.